We highly underestimate the power of letting go.
To let go is an important part of life, for change is eternal and constant.
We often find ourselves attached unhealthily to a goal, a person, an expectation, or a relationship. We fail to realise that if we do not learn to let go, it will bear disastrous consequences to not only our peace of mind but also our emotional, mental and more often than not, physical, well-being.
Through this write up I wish to explore, understand and evaluate the nature of attachment we develop towards our significant other.
Not all relationships are healthy and positive; some of them are highly negative and toxic.
“I don’t know, Mitali,” said a friend to me a while ago, “He seems so indifferent.” When I asked her to let go, all she said was, “But he loves me.”
Her voice echoed conviction. I think she was trying to convince herself.
The divides and distances in any relationship do not emerge overnight; they slip in slowly, ever so slowly, until you wake up one day realising how things are not the way they were before.
They never slip unnoticed either; somewhere, deep down, we are always aware of the cracks that are entering a relationship, we just tend to ignore them, because the dawn of realisation is one filled with inconsolable pain.
But at the end of the day, no matter how strong you’ve been, or how long you’ve been together, or how fresh or mend-able the cracks are, when a relationship hurts you, when it gives you more negative energy and tears than happiness and positive vibes, it is time for introspection.
A relationship is supposed to make you happy, independent, and satisfied. It must stabilise your life. Why would you want to be with someone who makes you cry, just because you’re comfortable with them?
Nothing ever grows in a comfort zone.
Growth is painful, change is painful. But nothing is more painful than being somewhere where you don’t belong.
It is foolish to believe that the other person cannot fall out of love with you -of course, they can, without any pretext and as easily as they fell for you.
This is not because they didn’t love you, they may have been crazy about you genuinely, but then, not all things last.
It is imperative to accept that people change; sometimes when people grow, they grow apart.
Of course, it is worthwhile to try and fix broken relationships, but that does not mean one should not be ready with arms and ammunition; because hoping for the best does not mean you shouldn’t prepare for the worst.
Letting go is never easy, it is always a mammoth and often a messy task.
And of course we all hate to admit it, but it is indeed a wise task.